Technology has become a big part of everyday life for most people. It has shown great benefits for the world, however often with great benefits come great downfalls. With an increasing number of people on social networking sites, the rate of cyber-bullying has also increased.
‘Cyber-bullying’ is when someone is harassed, threatened or humiliated by a group of people or one individual through the use of electronics. Electronics may include social media, emails, phone calls, text messages, pictures or videos. It can be difficult for a person experiencing cyber-bullying to escape the torment as technology is a major component in our life. It can also be particularly upsetting to the individual because the bullying can be seen instantly by other people. The cyber-bully can also be anonymous, hiding behind a different identity which increases the likelihood of people engaging in this behaviour.
It is important to be able to recognise the signs of cyber-bullying involving someone you care about. If you spot any of following signs, it might be time to talk to that person about cyber-bullying:
Emotional
Becomes introverted
Shows signs of anger and depression
Feels anxious or nervous
Feels stressed
Is very moody at times
Academic
Does not want to go to school
Pretends to be ill to stay home
Loses interest
Decrease in academic achievement
Social
Stops using technology altogether e.g. computer/phone
Suddenly shutting off or walking away from the computer mid-use
Unwilling to share information about online activity
Withdrawing from friends or social activities once enjoyed
Changed appetite/ weight loss
Trouble sleeping (e.g. nightmares)
Hurts self, attempts or threatens suicide
Physical pain (e.g. headaches/stomach aches)
As well as recognising the signs of cyber-bullying, being aware of measures to prevent cyber-bullying are crucial:
Know what websites are being visited
Be aware of age appropriate requirements for social media sites
Accept friend requests from familiar people
Have family as friends or followers
Never give out personal information
Know passwords for your child’s accounts, but tell them that it will not be used unless in emergency
Encourage openness among the family so nobody will feel ashamed or scared about being bullied
Do not respond to bullying. But do not delete it as this is proof that bullying has occurred. Save it to a folder which does not have to be looked at.
If the bullying is persistent you might need to talk to the Gardaí as it might be considered harassment in some circumstances (See future blog on cyber-harassment) or if a child is involved, try talk to the school.
